echo Yes, it’s that time of the year again folks, Valentine’s Day. For many couples, it’s a day filled with fancy dates, staycations, and other romantic gestures. But for the many of us who don’t necessarily have a partner, it can sometimes feel lonely. However, let’s flip the narrative! It could also be a perfect opportunity to celebrate yourself and embrace the freedom, independence and joy that comes with singlehood. Here’s why being single on Valentine’s Day is actually awesome 😉
Celebrate Self Love
Times are tough and as we grow older, responsibilities tend to pile up, often making us forget to pause and take care of ourselves. Valentine’s Day is a perfect reminder to treat yourself with kindness and appreciation. When was the last time you rewarded yourself with that jacket you’ve been eyeing at ZARA for the past 6 months?
Self love is the foundation of a fulfilling and meaningful life. It’s about appreciating your own worth, treating yourself with kindness and acknowledging that you deserve care and happiness just as much as everyone else. Self-love isn’t being selfish, it’s essential. When you embrace your flaws, you build confidence to show up authentically to the world. Prioritising your well-being and achievements, no matter how big or small, is what truly matters.
So, what are you waiting for? Indulge in a luxurious treat, savor your favorite meal and make this Valentine’s Day all about you!
No pressure or expectations, complete freedom
“Eh bb, where do you want to eat ah?”
“IDK la, maybe we eat mala xiang guo tonight?”
“Dowan la, I want Hadilao instead”
“Walao!”
Have you ever heard of your friends who are in relationships complain about this? It is probably every couple’s first-world problem; the endless difficulties over what to eat on dates. But lucky you, my single lady/man, deciding on a meal or itinerary won’t be a problem, as it’s entirely up to you, no compromises required!
You have complete freedom because you’re not bound by someone’s expectations that often come with being in a relationship. No need for perfect dates, gifts or aligning your plans with someone else’s preferences. Instead, you can focus on yourself and spend the day doing what makes you feel special and happy. Whether it’s indulging in your hobbies, treating yourself (going back to self-love) or simply just chilling, you have the flexibility to celebrate Valentine’s day on your own terms, free from anyone else’s pressure.
So sit tight, unwind, and enjoy the day your way, without the stress that comes with Valentine’s Day obligations.
Saves money and time
Malaysia’s inflation is like the economic version of a lousy durian—prickly, overpriced, and leaves a bad taste in everyone’s mouth. So that being said, isn’t it a perfect time to be single? (I’m not crying, you are).
Being single on Valentine’s Day is a great way to save money and time, which are often spent on the traditional aspects of the holiday when you are in a relationship. Romantic gestures like expensive gifts, fancy dinner reservations or buying flowers and chocolates can end up costing far more than you think. Similarly, planning a thoughtful and memorable Valentine’s Day can take time and effort.
It’s a Great Time to Bond with Friends
Love can come in all forms; it doesn’t necessarily mean you need to have a partner to express love!
This is the perfect opportunity to bond with friends and celebrate the meaningful connections in your life. Instead of focusing on intimate relationships, why not organize a fun get-together? Host a movie night, enjoy a meal together or spend quality time with your girlies (or brodies if you’re a guy).
Create some lasting memories, share laughter and strengthen your bond with the ones you really care about most. Surround yourself with people who support and can make your day special, reminding you that true love isn’t just limited to being in romantic relationships.
Reflect on what you truly want in life
Okay we get it, your friends are probably busy spending time with their partners on Valentine’s Day and maybe you’re desperately trying to find a partner, only reading this article to COPE!
Perhaps it’s time for you to sit down and reflect on what you truly want on Valentine’s Day. Use this time to take a step back and evaluate what matters most in your life. Whether it’s the relationships you cherish, the dreams you’re working towards, or the ideal type of partner you’re seeking for in the future. Take a moment to write it all down; what you’re grateful for, what you’re striving for, and where you’d like to grow.
Ask yourself these questions. What do you value most in relationships? How can you show yourself love and care daily? How can you become the best version of yourself each day?
By knowing what you truly want, you can set meaningful intentions for the future. Whether that’s being better in self-love, improving existing relationships or creating opportunities for the right one to enter your life, reflection is a powerful tool. Reflecting on your values isn’t just about your romantic aspirations, it’s about visioning the life you want and taking baby steps to make it a reality. Valentine’s Day isn’t just a celebration for couples; it’s an opportunity for discovery and empowerment.
Conclusion
Being single on Valentine’s Day isn’t a drawback. It’s an opportunity to celebrate your independence, and spend the day however you please. So, if you’re single this year, take advantage of that and focus on the things that bring you joy. Valentine’s Day doesn’t have to be about having a partner; it’s about appreciating love in all its forms.
If you’re actively trying to find a partner, focus on yourself, build a character, and be the best version of yourself in order to attract the ideal partner in your mind. When you invest in personal growth, you naturally exude confidence, independence, and fulfilment qualities that form the foundation of meaningful and healthy relationships.
“Don’t chase people. Be yourself, do your own thing, and work hard. The right people, the ones who really belong in your life, will come to you.”
– Will Smith
Written by: Jeremy Tan
Edited by: Ashley
